I received an e-mail from a good friend the other day and I was so encouraged with what she said that I just had to share it with all you single ladies out there!! So, be encouraged! :)
"...helping other single young ladies as they wait for either God's man or perfect will for their lives. A quote that a friend of mine told me once -although I know I'm not going to say it exactly accurate so I'll paraphrase- is that, "A woman should be so completely lost in God that a man would have to be completely lost in God to claim her attention." It is something along those lines, but the point is to not focus on getting married or even to be waiting for the right prince to come along, but to solely strive to give God the preeminence in every aspect of life. Yes, most girls desire to be a wife, but even marriage does not satisfy a believer's deepest longing. A lesson that I am still learning is that my first priority -and it should be my first desire- is to glorify my Father. If He decides to bless me beyond my first desire, it is His good pleasure and not my selfish wants. I know that it seems like it must be easy for me to say all this now that I am married, but to be honest, now is when I'm learning these lessons, or should I say - taking them to heart.
If I could challenge young single ladies now that I see the other side of the picture I would say that God created us for His glory and His purpose. I have no right to set my demands before Him, although in His mercy He hears my prayers. Lord, if you want me to be single, I will praise you in awe of your perfect will, and if you want me to be married, I will likewise praise you in awe!
A quote that my previous Sunday school teacher quoted from the book "My Utmost for His Highest" is, "Wait on God and He will work, but don't wait in spiritual sulks because you cannot see an inch in front of you." She also gave us the verse Philippians 4:8 which talks about what we think on. Whatsoever things are true, honest, just, pure, lovely, of good report... these are the things that should occupy my thoughts. There is always a lot of talk about being the Proverbs 31 woman for our future marriage, but does that not also mean that we should strive for that in singleness as well? ... At times it seems like such information can be overwhelming and discouraging (if looked at from the wrong perspective) at the prospect of how far there still is to go, but truly it is a worthy and worth-while goal!"
Thank you Charity! I was so encouraged again as I reread your e-mail. Thank you for letting me post it!